When it comes to online dating, everything is a little bit different than during a classic ‘meeting each other’. You may see the profile of the other person first. Get an idea. And write to each other. Maybe for days, maybe for weeks. And if everything goes well, you will like each other. You may even feel first butterflies in your stomach.
In such a case, it is certain to get to know each other sooner in real life. See you for the first time. And suddenly the question arises: How do I actually greet the person who is facing me there?
From the digital world to the real encounter
Depending on how long you’ve chatted together, the relationship can already be very deep. Maybe you’ve told each other personal things. Or even exchanged a few love words.
Is a handshake appropriate in such a case? Somehow it feels wrong. Falling straight into each other’s arms and even kissing? That’s a bit too much, right? So how should you best greet your date partner?
Shake hands, or hug? Find details in this video:
First date: These greetings are OK
There are greetings, which are very common in many countries. For example, the handshake. In fact, it may be appropriate at the first meeting. As long as you do it right. A strong handshake is great. Just make sure it’s not too weak, and not too tight. Variants like a high-five or even a fist bump are inappropriate.
The classic handshake is fine, however, if you expect more of the date and have already developed a few feelings, it’s simply too formal. A good alternative is a hug. That’s ok too. But it should be a friendly hug first. A short, heartfelt squeeze. That’s enough. And it shows your date partner that you are pleased about the encounter.
Maybe you are particularly emotional, and have you been looking forward to the date for a long time – Thus, you might tend to kiss at the first greeting. What may work on a date in Berlin, in a trendy neighborhood with very easy-going, open-minded people, is not necessarily commonplace. So better do without it. Unless the preceding digital contact was particularly intense and familiar.
And another tip for the men: Complimenting the woman during the first greeting is always a good idea. Dedicate the compliment especially to the woman in front of you. Something about her that attracts your attention. And the ice is broken.
Read the signs at the date
Whether a handshake or a hug is appropriate – The answer may be found in the posture of your date. If the person keeps a distance, then a handshake and a friendly “Hello” are your best choice. Likewise, if she seems rather shy and reserved.
And don’t forget: Despite all these tips, authenticity is the most important thing about the date. Welcome your date the way you feel like. However, always consider your current relationship and the body language of the other person.
