So, we like vanilla. Do you? Then why is vanilla sex actually so reviled, almost a dirty word? There must be a reason why this practice is named after a delicious spice.
But what is vanilla sex actually? In short, it’s the classic love game between a man and a woman. Without extra. Without bondage games. Without Dom and Sub. Just sex.
And exactly this kind of sexual intercourse is absolutely out since 50 Shades of Grey. Everyone seems to want it hard. Choking, spitting and rimming included. And yes, the whip is of course also part of the standard repertoire next to the bed of every open-minded single.
The question is: Does it have to be?
BDSM is the new standard.
Admittedly: BDSM definitely has its charms. Even the hardest romantic likes to try out the game between dominance and submission. But that doesn’t mean that bondage, sadomaso and other fetishes are necessarily part of everyone’s erotic repertoire.
The fact is that nowadays we are constantly confronted with sexual stimuli. The porn industry is booming. And just about everyone has had a look at Youporn, Pornhub and everything else available.
What is shown there often deviates from the norm – in other words, is anything but vanilla – and inspires people to dare to do more. Not only couples, but also singles test themselves out. For example, in ONS with a date from the app. Or even with a buddy as part of a Friendship Plus.
What is normal?
The thing is: BDSM is more and more common in european bedrooms, rougher love play is becoming the standard. Those who ‘out themselves’ as vanilla are ridiculed, perceived as boring or even called sexually unopen-minded.
But the preference for vanilla simply means nothing. Sometimes it is even much more intense to get involved in a very classic way. Looking deep into each other’s eyes. Discover each other. This is also very erotic. And it can have a lot of advantages over messed-up sex.
So, just give it a try. Sign up for a dating community and look for singles who want to be vanilla with you. You’ll see: an astonishing number of women and men are interested in getting deeply involved with you and experiencing the intense experience of lovemaking session.
In short: Whether BDSM or vanilla – fuck as you like it.
