What is your love language?
More and more often you are agetting asked this question on singles platforms, dating apps or simply on a date. And if you haven’t heard of it yet, you’re certainly surprised at first.
What is a Love Language?
Love Languages reveals how someone expresses their love.
There are five categories of Love Languages. So finding out your own Love Language is not difficult.
What are the Love Languages?
The theory of Love Languages was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman in his book “The Five Love Languages”. He identified five basic ways people express and receive love. Which one is yours?
Words of Affirmation
Who doesn’t like words of praise and appreciation? We all love them. Especially when they come from your partner.
Words of Affirmation include verbal praise, compliments and words of appreciation. A simple “I appreciate your reliability” or “I admire what you have already accomplished professionally” can be very meaningful to people with this Love Language.
So what does this mean for you? If you prefer to express your feelings with words, Words of Affirmation are your Love Language. On the other hand, if you hear words of admiration from your current date partner, or even just a “You mean so much to me,” Words of Appreciation are probably his Love Language.
Quality Time
For some, the most important thing is spending quality time together. These people value deep conversations, shared activities, or just the feeling that someone is giving them their undivided attention. Do you feel the same way? Then Quality Time is your Love Language. You consciously take time for your loved ones.
But be careful: It becomes difficult when only one part of a relationship values time together. So make sure that you find a partner who likes to take time for you. In the best case, you both have Love Language Quality Time.
Conversely, if you notice that you need a lot of space and distance, consider investing time in dating someone whose Love Language is Quality Time.
Receiving Gifts
Small gifts keep friendship alive. And love, too.
However, this does not mean that people with this Love Language are purely concerned with materialism. Rather, people with the Love Language Receiving Gifts surprise you with small attentions. They bring you a latte macchiato in the morning. Or they just pick up your favorite chewing gum while you’re shopping.
It’s the thought that counts. Even a small, carefully chosen gift can have deep meaning.
Acts of Service
For some people, love means doing something for the other person. This can mean your crush doing chores for you, taking your car to the car wash, or just helping you with a difficult task.
This form of helpfulness goes far beyond everyday favors. So you’ll quickly notice if you’re dating a single who expresses affection through Acts of Service.
Physical Touch
Physical Touch is the most passionate of all Love Languages. This is where it gets intimate. But not necessarily immediately hot and sensual. Because physical touch starts with holding hands and hugging. But it goes all the way to sex and the like.
For people with this Love Language, physical gestures are essential for feeling loved and appreciated. And also to express their own love.
Specify Love Language in Dating Profile
There are love languages that fit together. And others do not. So when dating, check carefully whether the person has the same love language as you.
Tip: Write your love language directly in your dating profile. And ask in the chat which Love Language the other person has. This way you’ll find a partner who matches you faster.
