Who can’t relate to the problem? You want to compliment your crush on a date. But you’re worried that you’ll come across as totally slimy and fake. This can happen quickly, even with serious compliments. And then the opposite of what you wanted to achieve with the kind words happens: there is no second date.
What is the solution? Don’t give compliments at all?
That would also be fatal. Everyone likes to hear a few kind words. And especially when dating, you want to reassure yourself whether the other person likes you. But what if nothing nice is said about you?
The trick is to skillfully compliment the single. You can find out how to do this in this post.
This is how you find the right words
Compliments strengthen relationships – especially when dating. But what is important is to wait for the right moment and find the right words. When that doesn’t work, a compliment quickly turns into flattery. And that’s not good at all. Flattery seems excessive and inappropriate. And above all interchangeable.
Here’s how to make sure you don’t fire off cheesy flattery, but instead give real compliments:
– Make your compliment individual. So, make your kind words specific to a quality of the person you’re complimenting.
– Do not exaggerate. Always find the right moment for your compliment. If you fire one after the other, your date won’t take you seriously anymore.
– Watch your relationship. When two single people date, they usually don’t know each other very well. Especially on the first date you shouldn’t compliment your looks. This quickly looks creepy and is uncomfortable for the other person.
– Limit yourself to concrete things. Compliments on looks aren’t completely off the mark. But: To say “You are beautiful” in general is too interchangeable. Instead, refer to specific features like the smile or the eyes. “Your smile is so personable” is a successful compliment to one’s appearance.
Women are allowed to give compliments too
We live in the 2020s. And yet sometimes behaviors are still stuck in our heads that are totally outdated. One of them: “Men should compliment women. Not the other way around.”
This is total nonsense. If you, as a woman, enjoy complimenting your partner or a single person – why not? Men are just as happy about the kind words as the female sex. “I celebrate your humor” or “I can just be me with you” are compliments that men particularly like.
In summary: You can give compliments on your next date or in a chat on a dating platform. Just make sure it’s the right moment. And that the compliment is specific to the single person you’re texting or talking to. Then it will work just fine with the first – or the next – date.
